網紅的藏寶箱Morninggg dears!! Fun one today. 😂 gaslightingggg. One of the reasons it is so important to get to know, trust and love yourself and work out a system for checking things is so that when people try to fuck with your reality, you know.
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I do love trying to see things from a different point of view, but something i used to do a lot, was automatically trust other people’s reality/opinion/projection more than i trusted myself. I was lucky in that, growing up, i mostly had people who had good intentions for me around me. But even then, it’s not ideal/safe to trust other people more than you trust yourself. And with people who do not have good intentions for you... this can become a highly dangerous situation to be in. Like when they make you doubt your reality.
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This is a collection of posts that i find helpful:
1. Identifying what gaslighting is.
2. This post is so useful for the “What if im wrong? What if they just see things differently? What if it’s just me?” questions.
5. The abuser/oppressor clause. If they repeatedly do it, repeatedly overstep your boundaries, etc. They’ve made a choice. Don’t free them of their responsibility. You aren’t doing anyone a favour.
6. Big red flags.
7. Does pointing it out mean you are perfect? Of course not. Do you have to be perfect to point out that something is wrong? Of course not. Here’s an example of how you can approach it if you’ve violated someone’s boundaries. And a reminder that that’s what the other party can do too. This is a possibility in healthy relationships.
8. Healthy relationships exist, they exist. They exist. They exist. They exist.
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Sending you guys lots of love. Have a great week ahead!!
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